Family Clinical Consulting

 

Parents call me for support related to their neurodivergent teen. While individual therapy is one approach, what I’ve found in working with anxious and neurodivergent kids and their families for almost a decade is that working with the whole family and transforming family dynamics is the key to lasting change.

 
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I developed my clinical consulting practice based on my own experiences trying to find guidance and support for my own children years ago, and having to learn and relearn therapeutic protocols and parenting strategies in order to improve my skill set with clients as well as my relationships with my own children.

My kids are now young adults, but when they were small, I really struggled to understand their behaviors and what I saw as their overreactions to things. I read all the books and listened to podcasts, and sought guidance and support from so many teachers, therapists and doctors over the years. I like to say that I’ve sat on every couch in town, and it gives me a really important understanding and lived experience as a parent of neurodivergent kids myself.

All of my research, all of those well-meaning parenting books and articles, just didn’t seem relevant to some of the situations I was dealing with. I felt like I was failing my kids every time we fought. I felt disappointed in my parenting, and frustrated that they weren’t responding to all of my efforts. In my practice, I worked with other families with similar challenges. Here’s what I’ve found over the years: The common thread in so many of these stories, of all these parents scratching their heads about why their parenting efforts weren’t working, and why their kids were struggling with emotion regulation or difficulties at school and typical accommodations weren’t helping, was that their child was very likely NEURODIVERGENT. That’s just a word that means “differently wired brain.”

So while this could mean someone with Autism, OCD, ADHD, or learning differences like dyslexia, it is also an umbrella term for all kinds of people who interpret the world in different ways. And because for so long, the majority of people in the world were (and are) considered Neurotypical, most of the therapeutic and academic protocols were designed with them in mind, not the Neurodivergent experience.

I knew there had to be a better way, so I decided to create it myself.

I developed my family clinical consulting practice to help other families navigate the process of identifying the right kinds of support, teaching families about neurodiversity and how it shows up in their relationships, normalizing and validating teens’ experiences and parents’ frustrations and concerns, and helping teens improve emotion regulation and increase self-confidence. I also provide comprehensive case management and collaboration with other providers and school personnel. With the integrated way I work, we’ll be able dive into many moving parts simultaneously.

I understand first-hand the urgency you feel to find solutions, and my expertise allows me to pull together the social, emotional and family aspects for you, and follow through to make sure all the providers and school personnel are collaborating on the same goals to make your child’s experience a success.

I have synthesized my personal and professional experiences to ensure that I can offer the most comprehensive support available anywhere. I’d love to help you and your family calm the chaos and rediscover the joy in being a family.

 

To give you an idea of what kinds of support you can expect, here are some of the offerings I provide:

  • Creating a strategic game plan for your teen and family encompassing assessment, identification of neurodivergent traits and development of achievable, measurable goals for the individual and family

  • Parent training and psychoeducation about neurodiversity (OCD, ADHD, Autism, learning disabilities like dyslexia or dysgraphia, and other cognitive differences)

  • Teaching strategies to motivate and connect with neurodivergent teens

  • Teen training on emotion regulation, verbalizing needs, and self-advocacy

  • Family training on positive communication, active listening, and conflict resolution

  • Identifying, interviewing, and overseeing collateral supports such as educational specialists, neuropsychologists, psychiatrists, and other providers

  • IEP/504 consultation

  • Advocating with school administrators on your teen’s behalf to request and ensure academic and social-emotional accommodations